Saturday, April 12, 2014

AMAZING GRACE



Today I reach gratefully to this most amazing day.
To the birds who launch the day, chirping sweetly
 in the arborvitae alongside the window.
To a dawn cracking boldly through the stroke between
                earth and sky shifting from dark to light.
To a warming world where the last of the blackened snow melts
                replaced by green breaking through
                          remnants of crusted winter.                                         

I reach gratefully to this most amazing day.
To grace that allows me to see the freshness of beginnings.
To grace that opens me to heal hurts and surrender to a kiss.
To grace that stirs me to dance with abandon, touch with wonder
                and live in the paradox.

I reach gratefully to this most amazing day.
Anticipating the mystery of a day unfolding
Saluting what has been as a shaping of this day
Suspending past and future for the now…
I reach gratefully to this most amazing moment
                of chirping birds in the arborvitae outside my window.
Welcoming my reach, inviting me to be amazed in the now.

Grace…it is amazing

 With gratitude to Ruth, who shares her blog space to welcome all of our celebrations.

Tuesday, April 8, 2014

THE POWER OF HABIT



“Your beliefs become your thoughts.  Your thoughts become your words.  Your words become your actions.   Your actions become your habits.  Your habits become your values.  Your values become your destiny.”                                                                            ~Mahatma Gandhi

Research varies regarding how long it takes to form a habit.  Some researchers say that habit-making takes between 21 and 28 days of repetition.  Others say the result of habit happens with more than 60 days of focus.  Habit formation and the ease of developing a habit depend on several factors.  What type of habit are you trying to form?  How single-minded are you in developing the habit?  How important is the action you are trying to make into a habit?  How mindful are you on a daily basis toward creation of the habit?  A habit is created when the act of doing what you want to change becomes automatic.  For automaticity to occur, mindful actions need to occur.  Whether the habit is writing daily, exercising, or choosing to not bite ones nails, the process of developing a habit develops many benefits beyond the actual action that is repeated toward automaticity.

The Writing Challenge sponsored by Two Writing Teachers, allows teachers and writers to participate in a community building, fun activity while developing a habit of writing.  My experience of participating in the challenge was one where I felt an easy flow of ideas and automaticity in writing as I bumped up against deadlines, managed busyness with a limited time of writing, and chose to write regardless of the excuses that might have come to me about why I might stop or skip a day.  My determination, along with much positive feedback as support along the way (another huge contributor to habit development) allowed me to create writing muscle and resilience to spur my writing forward.  I developed writing times, responding times and a rhythm that allowed me to best produce and articulate my message.  My creativity developed along with my confidence as I worked on developing a habit of writing during the challenge.  Since the challenge has ended, I decided to increase the number of weekly times that I post.  I risked a poetry challenge that I would not have done before the challenge.  And I get up 45 minutes earlier than in the past to write on a daily (although not posted) basis.  Many benefits emerged from choosing a writing habit.

The benefits of practice and habit are numerous. Below are three important by-products of habit development:

Practice makes perfect.  The more we practice a skill, the better we get at it.   100 Days is a link that shows one person’s journey in developing a habit of dance.  Through a time-lapsed video we see her improvement in the skill of dance as she takes on a habit of dance.  Give it 100 invites anyone who wants to form a habit in 100 days to become a part of her 100 day habit challenge.

Positive character traits are developed and nurtured through the habit-forming process.  Persistence, resilience and determination are by-products that result from a person giving  focus to development of a habit to the level of automaticity.   Self-awareness and self-confidence grow as a habit is established and failure as well as success is conquered. 

Developing a habit can also give cognitive space for more complex tasks.  In our classrooms, with the establishment of routines in writers’ workshop we are allowing for students to take on the complex task of writing without butting up against thinking about procedures.  The structure of Writers’ Workshop is one of predictability.  From the first days of school, students learn the habits of workshop to allow for a greater benefit which comes from knowing and automatically practicing the regular routines of the workshop day.  With predictability, a student can dig deeper with thoughts and craft in the development of the writing piece.  Habits within the community happen and deeper creativity and craft can be advanced.   

Developing a habit is a process.  Whether habit formation takes 21 days or 100 days, it starts with a value and a thought.  It grows with a repetition of actions.  Habits are developed and values are strengthened.  As teachers we help shape habits for our young people.  As people, we define our future as we develop habits that promote the life we want to create. 

Saturday, April 5, 2014

CELEBRATION SATURDAY--A DAY OF EMPTY SPACE!



Today I am celebrating a mostly unplanned day.  Life has been brim full with activities and “to do’s” that make me productive and happy.  These days also make me stressed and stretched.  Today is a stop day to celebrate emptiness.  Today is a Deb Day—a day for getting my house in order by creating some white space for be.  Today is a day to reorder my personal space and to re-connect with myself.  Today is a day to celebrate me.  What is on my “to do” list—nothing?  What activities am I going to do today?  I don’t know! 

My life is brim to the top and overflowing.  Papers to grade.  Classes to plan.  Curriculum to write.  House to clean.  Bills to write.  Wedding to plan.   Any and every day, I have a “to do” list that can keep me busy from the moment I awake at 5 till I go to bed at about 10.  And this is the cycle that happens to me when I let that “to do” be my major motivator:

The first days of my “to do” way of life I am totally productive.  I get so much done and I feel accomplished as well as motivated.  The next few days, less gets checked off.  I lose a bit of focus.  I start to slip away from self-care (I might not write for a day.  Or I don’t record my food.  I choose not to exercise.)  Then I spend a day or two looking at the “to do’s” and postponing much of what needs to be done till the next day.  I become more mindless in my actions and my thoughts.  I lose motivation to eat correctly and might begin to eat mindlessly as well.  I feel bad about not accomplishing what I need to do.  I move more slowly in what I want to do—yet somehow all that I need to do gets done.  In a worst case scenario I then move to what I have been calling “unconscious” living—for a day, a week, a month or longer—doing what I need to do, but somehow losing a sense of self.  Till I regroup, mindfully look at my needs and often start the “to do” list again.  What a cycle!

So today…I am breaking that cycle.   I have been in the “to do” phase.  Moved to the slip-from-self-care phase.  Touched into the mindless phase.  And I am choosing to not going into the unconscious phase.  Today is my day to regroup.  To put away the “to do”.  And use the day for me.  A day to celebrate unplanned.  A day to celebrate reordering and re-connecting.  A day for me.  This is what I celebrate this Saturday.

My goal—to break the cycle at stage one of the cycle rather than stage 4 or 5.  That is to come.  Today I am noticing.  And that makes a world of difference and is definitely something to celebrate!

Thank you to Ruth for creating a space that allows us to share celebration and for encouraging us to look for the many places in our lives that celebrations exist.  Thank you, Ruth!