Tuesday, July 2, 2013


I don’t know about you, but if I would let myself, I would work all of the time.  I take that back…I would work and work and work till I get to a place of overwhelm and then I would fritter a day a way in a very mindless fashion.  I have to-do lists out the wazoo and they grow instead of diminish the harder I work.  I keep a running list of all of the things I need to accomplish and you would think that it would start to become smaller with time.  It grows.  And lately, I have been more and more inclined to the mindless days as a reaction to “The List”

This mindset, although productive for the most part, has not in the long term served me well.  So this summer, I am breaking the pattern. I am creating a paradigm shift.   I have instituted what I can “Fun Days”.  Instituting these days, at first, seemed to be more difficult than I thought.  Fun.  Fun.  What can I do for fun.  Coming up with the list took a while to get my mental juices going in the direction of fun.  Then the list began to flow and whenever I came up with another idea it would go on the list.  I was sharing this idea with some friends and a friend suggest that I cut up the list and put it in a sand bucket for summer and pull from the bucket to create my fun day as they arrived. 

I calendared in six fun days this summer—which is amazing because the summer is so full of teaching college classes, home obligations and prep for the fall that my time could be frittered away on “have to’s”.  (I am liking that word “fritter” today—it seems playful).  But fun is a have to, too.  AND TODAY IS MY FIRST FUN DAY!  Happy Tuesday!  Happy Fun Day!  I have been thinking about this day for the past week.  The rules for this day are:

1.       I have fun on Fun Day!
2.       I don’t do anything on my “to do” list.
3.       I don’t mindlessly waste the day away.
4.       I choose from my fun list activities in any way that makes the day full of fun.

So today I slept in.  My daughter is coming over to make me breakfast (after I asked her to join me for breakfast).  I am taking a walk in nature by myself.  I am writing.   I am going to see a funny movie during a matinee on a Tuesday with a friend who happens also to be free—but I was willing to go by myself.  I am making a yummy appetizer and then joining three other friends for a reunion dinner. 

I calendared in the dates several weeks ago, knowing that I would be doing this activity this summer.  The dinner came up after I had scheduled the fun day.  Since it is fun I calendared it in.   A dentist appointment also came up for today. That is not fun so I politely asked if we could choose another day for the appointment.  You need to know, creating fun is really hard for me…so sticking to this is really an awesome accomplishment.

So, today is my fun day.   How are you including fun into your summer?  I have lots of ideas in my sand pail, if you are looking for some ideas!  Happy summer fun!

Thank you, Stacy and Ruth for hosting us on your site.


  1. Sometimes it is hard to step away from the "have-to-do" list and do something FUN. It sounds like you've created a perfect solution. Enjoy your day today and in the future.

  2. I like the idea of scheduling in some fun. Hard for me, too.

  3. I really like your idea of setting aside a day to focus on enjoyment of summer. It should continue throughout the entire year. Have fun.

  4. Okay - great idea, which I need to try my hand at, immediately!

  5. I like the idea of scheduling in a fun day, but it makes me sad that you have to do this in order to make it happen. I feel like I need to be productive in some way each day, but I realize the importance of relaxation too. I am assigning myself a half hour of reading each day. I read lots on the Internet, but making myself stop, turn off the TV and computer, and pick up a book for my own guilty pleasure is hard.

    Thanks for the push to get back to the 8 Habits of Love. The next chapter is Candor and I've been struggling to come up with an example that is safe to share. But the following chapter is Play, and that is exactly what you are talking about here. We must balance to live in love.

  6. Just sounds great, Deb. good for you for making changes in your life that you like!

  7. Scheduling Fun Days! I need to remember this during the school year. Thanks!

  8. I am all about balance. I'm coming up to lots of work in the month of July, but I can tell you that August will offer me lots of fun. I don't think I could ever just work, but we all need those fun days. You too, Deb!

  9. I love the idea of fun days. I, too, have a to-do list that threatens to overwhelm me. I hope you had lots of fun today!

  10. I am adoring this whole post and want to hug it. Deb - this would be the coolest book idea. It is so easy to "fritter away" time when it feels a bit open, and scheduling fun is much better. Have you read Julia Cameron's THE ARTIST'S WAY? Your post is very happily making me think about "artist dates". xo, a.